What was the single best thing that happened this past year? Getting married. Mostly because that set the tone for the whole year.

What was the single most challenging thing that happened? See above.

What was an unexpected joy this past year? Learning the extent to which my wife cares about me.

What was an unexpected obstacle? Our expectations (realistic and otherwise) about marriage.

Pick three words to describe 2010. Wait, what? Okay.

Pick three words your spouse would use to describe your 2010 (don’t ask them; guess based on how you think your spouse sees you). You okay? Breathe.

Pick three words your spouse would use to describe their 2010 (again, without asking). Roller coaster ride.

What were the best books you read this year? More like only books, and I can’t even remember them.

With whom were your most valuable relationships? Brittany

What was your biggest personal change from January to December of this past year? Learning to share life with someone else, not just live in the same area as someone else.

In what way(s) did you grow emotionally? Learning to talk about stuff instead of internalizing everything.

In what way(s) did you grow spiritually? In the words of U2, “Sometimes you can’t make it on your own.”

In what way(s) did you grow physically? I plead the fifth.

In what way(s) did you grow in your relationships with others? It’s really hard to tell; I’m just now learning just how impossible it is to please everyone, but that’s a recent development, so the jury’s still out.

What was the most enjoyable part of your work (both professionally and at home)? Solving a problem.

What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)? Maintaining communication and motivation with a team that is 200 miles away.

What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year? Netflix streaming, particularly a particular TV show.

What was the best way you used your time this past year? Better knowing my wife.

What was biggest thing you learned this past year? No one is perfect: not you, nor the people you thought were.

Create a phrase or statement that describes 2010 for you. It’s time to talk about what we learned today.

See also: Brittany and Lena.